HOW TO USE A VIBRATOR: If You Don't Know Where to Start

How to use a vibrator, in short: charge it, wash it, get comfortable, add a little water-based lube, then start on the lowest setting against the outside of your body, usually the clit, and move up slowly. Explore pressure, angle and modes until you find what you like. You do not need any experience and there is no wrong way to start. A simple external toy, like our Rose Sucking Vibrator, or a soft curved vibrator like the G Spot Dildo Vibrator are easy first choices.

Below you will find the main types of vibrators, a step-by-step guide for your first time, techniques to try and how to care for your toy.

Which type of vibrator should you start with?

Vibrators come in a few main shapes. Each one suits a different kind of play.

External suction toys

Instead of buzzing, they use airflow over the clit. The Rose Sucking Vibrator uses rotating airflow to suck and tease without direct contact, with 7 suction modes. Nothing goes inside, which makes it a relaxed first toy.

Curved G-spot vibrators

The G Spot Dildo Vibrator is soft, body-safe silicone, curved for G-spot stimulation, with 5 vibration modes from gentle to intense. It comes in two sizes, small (10.9 cm) and big (18.5 cm), so you can start with the smaller one.

Wearable vibrators

The Butterfly Remote Control Scissoring Vibrator is a wearable ride-on toy with two whisper-quiet motors and 9+9 patterns, controlled from your phone or the remote. It rests against your body, so your hands are free.

Wands

A wand has a rounded head on a long handle for broad external vibration. Our Magic Premium Wand vibrates at both the head and the tail, with 10 modes.

See them all in our sex toys for women collection.

How to use a vibrator for the first time, step by step

Step 1: Charge it fully

A full battery means steady power and no interruptions. Charge it the day before if you can.

Step 2: Wash it

Warm water and mild soap, a good rinse, then pat it dry.

Step 3: Learn the buttons

Before you start, turn it on and off, and click through the modes. Knowing how to switch it off quickly helps you relax.

Step 4: Set the mood

Pick a time when you have privacy and no rush. Dim the lights, put on music if you like and get comfortable on the bed with a towel and your lube close by.

Step 5: Warm up with your hands

A few minutes of touch helps your body get ready. Arousal makes everything feel better.

Step 6: Add water-based lube

A little lube on the tip of the toy makes contact smoother. Choose a water-based formula, which suits silicone.

Step 7: Start on the outside, on the lowest setting

Rest the toy lightly on your inner thighs, your lower belly, then over your clit. Begin on the softest mode and move up one step at a time.

Step 8: Explore at your own pace

Try different spots, angles and pressure. If you have an insertable toy, add more lube and go slowly once you feel ready.

Techniques to try

• Circles. Small, slow circles around the clit rather than directly on it.
• Tapping. Lift the toy on and off for a pulsing feel.
• Pressure play. Press lightly, then a little firmer, and notice the difference.
• Through fabric. Use it over your underwear for a softer, more diffused sensation.
• Edging. Bring yourself close, ease off, then build again for a stronger finish.
• Combine. Use a vibrator on the outside while a G-spot toy is inside.

How to use a vibrator internally

If you want to try internal play, a curved toy is the easiest place to begin. Lie on your back with your knees bent, add plenty of lube and slide the toy in slowly with the curve facing your belly. The G-spot sits a few centimeters inside on the front wall. Start the vibration low and try small rocking movements instead of thrusting.

For a full guide to a wearable toy, read our article on the scissoring vibrator, or see how to use a rose toy for suction.

How to find your favorite mode

Most vibrators offer several modes: steady vibration, pulses, waves and patterns that rise and fall. The best way to find yours is to give each one a fair try.

• Stay on each mode for a while. Thirty seconds tells you more than three.
• Change only one thing at a time. Mode, then pressure, then position, so you know what made the difference.
• Remember your favorites. Count the clicks to the modes you like, so you can jump back to them next time.
• Mix it up between sessions. What you enjoy can change with your mood, so revisit modes you skipped.

The same goes for suction toys. On the Rose Sucking Vibrator, each of the 7 suction modes feels different, and the lower ones are a gentle way to open a session before you try the stronger settings.

Common beginner mistakes

• Starting on the highest setting. Strong vibration can feel numbing. Build up.
• Pressing too hard. A light touch is often more intense.
• Skipping lube. It makes every toy feel better.
• Expecting instant results. Your first session is about learning, not a goal.
• Staying on one spot. If an area feels too sensitive, move around and come back later.

What if it does not feel good?

That is normal and easy to fix. Lower the setting, change the angle or use the toy over fabric. Try a different spot, or a different day. Bodies respond differently from one session to the next, and a toy that felt like too much on Monday can feel just right on Friday. If one type of stimulation never clicks, try another type: suction instead of vibration, or external instead of internal.

How to care for your vibrator

• Wash it after every use with warm water and mild soap.
• Dry it completely before you charge it.
• Keep it in its own pouch, separate from the rest of your collection.
• Use water-based lube with silicone.
• Check the manual before taking it into water.

Still choosing your first toy? Our beginner guide to choosing your first sex toy walks you through the options.

How to use a vibrator FAQ

Where do I put a vibrator?

Start on the outside of your body: inner thighs, lower belly and then the clit. Insertable toys can be used inside once you feel ready, with plenty of lube.

What setting should I start on?

The lowest one. Move up one step at a time.

Do I need lube with a vibrator?

It is not required for external use, but a little water-based lube makes contact smoother. For internal use, lube is a must.

What is the easiest vibrator for beginners?

An external toy like the Rose Sucking Vibrator, or the small size of the G Spot Dildo Vibrator if you want to try internal play.

Can I use a vibrator every day?

Yes, if it feels good. Take a break if an area feels numb or sensitive.

How are your vibrators shipped?

In a plain box with discreet billing. Shipping is free.