DILDOS CAN BE ENJOYED BY ANYONE!

How to use a dildo, in short: wash it, get relaxed and aroused, add plenty of water-based lube to the dildo and to your body, then insert it slowly while lying on your back or on your side. Start with shallow, gentle movements and let your body set the pace. A suction cup base, like the one on our Realistic Suction Cup Premium Dildo or the Erotic Soft Jelly Dildo, lets you stick it to a smooth surface for hands-free play. Dildos are for anyone who enjoys penetration, solo or shared.

Below you will find how to choose a dildo, a step-by-step guide, positions to try, hands-free tips and how to care for it.

Dildos can be enjoyed by anyone

A dildo is simply a toy for penetration. It can be used vaginally or, if it has a flared or suction base, anally. It works for solo play and with a partner, and for any body that enjoys the feeling of fullness. There is no right reason to own one other than curiosity and pleasure.

How to choose your dildo

• Size. Check the insertable length and the width. Smaller is easier at first.
• Material. Silicone is smooth and easy to clean. Jelly is soft and flexible.
• Base. A suction cup gives you hands-free options and a flared base makes anal play safer.
• Shape. Realistic, textured, fantasy or curved. Each feels different.
• Extras. Some dildos add thrusting, vibration or warmth.

Our dildos

Erotic Soft Jelly Dildo: soft and beginner-friendly

The Erotic Soft Jelly Dildo has an ergonomic head sized for beginners, a strong suction cup for hands-free play and fits most strap-on harnesses. It comes in small (18 cm), medium (20 cm) and large (22 cm).

Realistic Suction Cup Premium Dildo: lifelike and full

The Realistic Suction Cup Premium Dildo is textured silicone with a versatile suction base that sticks to a chair, wall or floor. Its page lists a total length of 8 in, an insertable length of 7 in and a girth of 5 in.

Fantasy Dragon Dildo: textured and flexible

The Fantasy Dragon Dildo is soft black and red silicone with raised bumps, a strong suction cup and a fully flexible body. It is 6.88 in (17.5 cm) long with a maximum diameter of 1.77 in (4.5 cm), and its page calls it beginner friendly.

Black Automatic Remote Controlled Heating Thrusting Dildo: it moves for you

The Black Automatic Remote Controlled Heating Thrusting Dildo combines automatic thrusting, 7 modes and body-like warmth, with a remote and a strong suction cup.

See every shape in our dildos collection.

How to use a dildo, step by step

Step 1: Wash it

Warm water and mild soap, then rinse and pat dry.

Step 2: Warm up first

Arousal helps your body relax and makes insertion more comfortable. Touch, a clit toy or a vibrator are all great ways to start.

Step 3: Add plenty of water-based lube

Coat the dildo from tip to base and add some to your body too. Water-based lube is safe with silicone and jelly.

Step 4: Pick a position

On your back with your knees bent is the easiest start. Lying on your side works well too.

Step 5: Insert slowly

Press the tip gently and breathe out as you ease it in. Go a little at a time and pause whenever you want.

Step 6: Find your rhythm

Try shallow movements first, then deeper ones. Twist slightly, change the angle and notice what feels good. Slow is often better than fast.

Step 7: Add clit stimulation

Using your fingers or a vibrator on the clit at the same time can make penetration feel even better.

Positions to try

• On your back. Knees bent, a pillow under your hips for a better angle.
• On your side. Relaxed and easy on the arms.
• Kneeling. Gives you more control over depth.
• Riding. Stick a suction cup dildo to a smooth floor or chair and lower yourself onto it at your own pace.
• Against the wall. In the shower, a suction cup on smooth tiles frees both hands.

Hands-free play with a suction cup

Suction cups need a smooth, flat, clean and dry surface: glass, smooth tiles, a varnished chair or a hard floor. Press the base down firmly to push out the air and give it a gentle tug to test the grip. Keep lube off the base, or it will slip. For more tips, read our suction cup dildo guide.

Dildo or vibrator: what is the difference?

A dildo is about penetration and fullness. A vibrator is about buzzing sensation, often on the outside of the body. A classic dildo has no motor, so there is nothing to charge and nothing to learn: you control the depth, angle and rhythm with your hand or your hips. That makes it simple and quiet.

Some dildos bridge the gap. The Black Automatic Remote Controlled Heating Thrusting Dildo moves on its own and warms up, while the Realistic Suction Cup Premium Dildo stays manual but works hands-free. If you enjoy both penetration and vibration, pair a dildo with a clit toy for the best of both.

Solo or with a partner

Solo, a dildo lets you learn exactly what depth and rhythm you enjoy. With a partner, it can add to foreplay or, in a harness, open up new ways to play. Either way, communication and plenty of lube make the experience better.

Using a dildo for anal play

Only use a dildo with a flared or suction base for anal play, so it cannot slip all the way in. Use far more lube than for vaginal play, go slower and start with a smaller size. Never move a dildo from anal to vaginal use without washing it first.

Common mistakes to avoid

• Starting too big. Choose a size you are comfortable with.
• Skipping warm-up. Arousal makes a real difference.
• Not enough lube. Add more as you go.
• Rushing. Pause, breathe and go at your own pace.
• Using silicone lube on a silicone dildo. Choose water-based.

How to care for your dildo

Wash it after every use with warm water and mild soap, including the suction cup. Rinse well and let it air dry completely. Store it in a pouch, away from toys made of other materials. Our guides on the soft jelly dildo and how to use a dragon dildo include care tips for those materials.

How to use a dildo FAQ

How do I use a dildo for the first time?

Get relaxed and aroused, use plenty of water-based lube, lie on your back and insert it slowly with gentle, shallow movements.

What size dildo should I start with?

Smaller than you think. The Erotic Soft Jelly Dildo comes in a small 18 cm size with a head designed for beginners.

Can I use a dildo hands-free?

Yes, with a suction cup base on a smooth, flat surface like tiles, glass or a chair.

Can I use a dildo in a strap-on harness?

Yes. Our Erotic Soft Jelly Dildo is described as harness compatible and fits most strap-on harnesses.

Which lube should I use?

Water-based lube, which is safe with silicone and jelly.

How are your dildos shipped?

In a plain box with discreet billing. Shipping is free.